Hey Guys…….guess what? ….yea yea you guessed right,…I’M BACK. How have y’all been? I know I know (face down) Some of you are angry at me…please forgive me. If you want me to explain I can actually mail you my explanation ooh. All the same, PLEASE FORGIVE ME……It was after I got series of messages both personal and public that I checked my blog calendar and realized that I hadn’t posted anything since one month plus…..I know right (now even some of you that didn’t notice are like haaaaa!!! Tenderoni, how could you and you say you love us, hmmmm) Please, don’t crucify me. I promise not to stay away for this long.

However,…I had a lot of entertainment and insight from most of my blogger friends…you guys are amazing, shout out to Dr N, Frances, Lizzie, Glowing Scene,…ahhh Femmetotale, Ujesta, Dare and yes, Crazy Nigerian, Livelytwist (the writer herself)…ooh how can I forget my mummy, Naija mum…una too much. Y’all kept my busy days very relaxing. Thank you so much, your gift is indeed evident and I’m blessed by you.   muah

Also, thank you to those of you who kept visiting to see if I have posted on the blog yet. You made me smile and cry at the same time(as I wasn’t able to satisfy your thirst). I love you guys.

Now today is a beautiful day and I have so much to say to you but considering how tired I am,…I will tell you a story.story

Story Story,….Story……….Once Upon a time,…..time…time.

Emily is the name of my new friend. She’s beautiful, the kind that you don’t need to sound modest about when you see. I had just met her a few months ago and so we decided to spend some time together since we both live in different cities. The holidays came close, so It was only normal and about time we met. It was whole week break, both our universities happened to have our holiday on the same days, so we planned her trip. My city had more to offer in terms of fun places and since I live alone, she had to come over…..Thank God she didn’t live too far, she got here on time and I was so excited to see her.

The first day we had a beautiful night, you know how we ladies can be,..gist upon gist,. girl talk, everything gistable was on the table of our gist plate. We had fun, got to know each other better and we literally slept off with our mouth open as we had talked and talked till our mouths got tired.

Before you start to imagine tins, I and Emily really gelled, and every day went beautiful as we visited different fun places. It was such a breath of fresh air to have her around, especially as she shared my passions.

Here’s where things got funny (now don’t think we fought ooh, all you people expecting the story not to end well, your plan will not work….lol)

I noticed that Emily had this very arguable low self-esteem, it wasn’t the kind that you would notice easily, you might not even call it low self-esteem, maybe I should say the wrong kind of humility.

Let me give you an example of how some of my conversations with her went.

Now here’s both of us dressing up for service and we get talking:

Me: Wow, gurl I love this your dress ooh,…it fits so perfectly on you. I would love mine in the color orange. I really love the way it looks on you. (mind you, I wasn’t flattering, I meant it)

Emily: Ohl really, I don’t see what you’re seeing ooh,..the gown is just there,…I even got it in one cheap shop like that. I’m surprised you like it on me ooh, you know you are the one with the sexy body now, abeggiii stop flattering me ooh.

Me: I’m serious dear, I love the way it looks on you and thanks for your compliment, I love your body shape as well, you’re beautiful and you know it…..go girl

Emily: Wow, sweetie, this your dress is awesome, I love it,..you’re so pretty. You’ll take me to where you shop ooh. This dress is lovely.

Me: Awwww thank you love,..I actually got this at a second-hand shop too, but it hadn’t been worn before. I know right, the dress fits me as I like it, that’s because I had to take it to the seamstress to do some fittings on it. Thanks.

Emily: Wow, that’s nice…..You really have beautiful things ooh…..I love them and your body just fits in them perfectly. Maybe you should take me to where you shop for real, at least let me get a few things before I head back.

So we go out to shop one day, and to cut the story short, Emily comes back empty-handed, no, not because she didn’t have the money to pay. Because, she didn’t find anything that fits her or that appeals to her. Are you shocked, no don’t be. We went through several shops, several pieces and she kept giving an excuse why that beautiful dress wouldn’t look beautiful on her. One of her many reasons was that it was gonna expose her ugly legs (Yes, she said “my Ugly legs”). But surprisingly, when it got to my turn to try on clothes, she advised me to pick them, saying they looked perfect on me. If I didn’t know better, I would have said she wanted me to spend money while she watched but I know better. She was so insecure about herself that everyone else apart from her was perfect. So much so, that she almost didn’t see anything good about herself physically. She complained about almost everything. Her weight, her skin, her buttocks,etc                                      .awe

So, there was this day when she offered me a compliment and here was my response.

Me: Emily, you offer me this beautiful compliments each time and I always love them, they make me smile. However, I don’t think that you mean them. Sometimes I wonder if it’s the same eyes with which you see others that you use in seeing yourself.

Emily: How do you mean dear?..she quietly asked me

Me: Have you ever wondered how come you seem to see everything beautiful about people, but each time others compliment you, you seem to always have something negative to counter it with? I don’t think that my things as you say are as beautiful as you say they are, because if you can’t see by yourself how beautiful you and your own things are, how can you see for someone else? Those are my concerns.

Emily: Ooh dear,…..they truly are beautiful as I have said, it’s just that I don’t always feel  as beautiful as the way people say I am. I know it’s a problem and I’ll definitely try to change. I’ve been trying to but I just don’t know how.

Me: I’m glad you now see it in this light. We’ll talk about how you can overcome this low self-esteem tonight, there are some practical steps that must be taken my dear, don’t worry we’ll do this together, ok. I love you dear, *hugs*

Emily: Thank you dear, thank you for letting me know this. I love you too sweetie *hugs*

So that’s in summary how my conversation with Emily ended on that day.

Some of you might be asking, why this story…..who cares to know what happened between you and your new friend Emily?…blah blah blah,..lol

Well, this story just reminds me about how so many people go through this on a daily basis. We can be so careful about acknowledging several beautiful things about us, things that God has graced us with, not just physically. Some of us do it because of low self-esteem while some others do it in the name of being Humble. However, it’s not like we plan to be this way. We just find ourselves in that position where we don’t want to sound like we are proud or like we have it all.

My Brother, My Sister,…please cheer up, loosen up, you too deserve to be praised, you too can be proud of your God-given gifts and talents. Is there something you’ve accomplished and you are being praised for it, don’t just act as though it’s a sin to think highly of yourself. You deserve to be celebrated and loved, so let out those smiles, say the “thank you’s” it’s that simple, do not complicate things by trying to explain how “it’s not all that” as we see it.

Even in this season of Love, we should learn to accept appreciation with humility as well as give out appreciation to the people around us. Lets learn to celebrate our selves and pat ourselves at the back for even those seemingly little accomplishments or endeavors that we succeed at. You can take an example from the Lizard, like the story we heard as kids, he nods his head after a successful fall from the tree, since no one will applaud him,…lol

Even God expects us to acknowledge every good work that’s in us, He says, that way the communication of our faith will be effectual (Philemon 1:6)

Also God is OK that we can think highly of ourselves, just not too highly of ourselves (Romans 12:3)

awesomeSo take advantage of the love that you receive and celebrate others as you celebrate yourself. You are very valuable and you should be treated as such. Jesus paid for you with his blood, so square your shoulders, stand tall, walk straight, talk bold, for you are AWESOME.

If you’re an Emily out there, look out for my upcoming post on how to improve self esteem…..it’ll surely bless you.its ok

I love you guys and I missed y’all so much.

Have a beautiful day.

Kip Illuminating

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Story Story...Once Upon a time

Five Ways to Thank God this season

We are Grateful

Some of you might be asking, “why is this wonderful blogger sharing this post, isn’t it obvious How to Thank God, I mean we all know God and we can just say God I thank you, its that simple and the world knows this”.

The answer to that is, it might shock you what over familiarity does to people, I mean this is a God that we’ve known and heard of all our lives, for some of us who just got born again, a couple of years or so. But, thanking God is not a mere doing, what i mean by that is, we actually cannot thank God ordinarily, but by Faith. This is a God we cannot see, but for the Holy Spirit who the bible describes as the “Angel of God’s Presence”, who relates God’s presence to us who have received him. So, if not by Faith, we cannot thank God.

So, not that these are the only ways we can thank God but, these five ways will go a long way in saying Lord I’m truly Grateful.

Hear this, the number one way we thank God is by our fellowship with God through Prayer. Here, we praise the lord, with words that say how great He is, how awesome he is and how wonderful He is. Just like our earthly fathers, when we are given a gift from them, we burst into Joy and start to praise them, some of us jumping and screaming say,” daddy you are the best”, how much more the creator of the universe, the first and the last, the everlasting God. God deserves our Praise and thanks as well and even more. Even as I type this post, i just wanna praise Him. Also, the ministry of the Holy Spirit in our lives, we must not forget to Thank Him, he has been our Comforter, Standby, our ever present help in times of need.

The Second way we express our thanks to God is by financial and material seeds. These are things that most of us Christians take lightly and because of that have missed out on the blessings of God in our life. Giving from your substance of which the lord blessed you with is an act of faith and worship to God, Note here that i’m not referring to our Tithes, First fruits or Offerings, this is our Thanksgiving Offering, that says to God “Lord you are my source and i thank you for your supply and your provision”.  Remember the Word of God says, A Grateful heart is a garden, this means that you will always blossom and thrive and grow so beautifully that the world will notice. Practically, I’ll urge you to take, no matter how little (putting in mind that God deserves your best), from what God has blessed you with, especially money, put this in an envelope and send it to church. I’m sure your churches have already announced the days of thanksgiving. We are doers of God’s word and not just hearers, so we will hear to do.

Moving on, the third way to Give thanks to God is through our actions, our good deeds of love in the church and outside the church, with the brethren and our families. As we all know, Christmas is near and the new year is also close by, we can say thank you to God by finding out around us those that do not have enough to celebrate and put a smile on their faces, by giving them gifts, rice, chicken, meat and even clothes for the children. Right now in my Ministry, Believers Loveworld Nation, there is a send portions campaign for children by the Inner City Missions Partnership arm, you can join them in sending portions of food to the less privileged ones and put a smile in the face of at least one child (I’ll include links on how we can participate). God is indeed happy when we do this. Also, even with our words, the way we talk to people, tell some how beautiful they are, help someone in need, and literally just smile to put a smile in someones face this season. http://theinnercitymission.org/v3/

Now, this particular one i’m about to share is very important, the fourth way is  simply to share the Good news  about our Lord Jesus to someone, yes I said simply, lol. This has been quite a challenge for some of us but i’m here to say its really not a challenge. Just simply asking someone if they are born again is the first step, if you are a student you can do this during your free period or even on your way home from school, if you work, even much more easy, you have colleagues and other staff in your company or department, telling someone about what the Lord did for you is a way of thanksgiving, it says a lot that you are not selfish about the salvation that you already have, you wanna share it with your world. More so, apart from doing that, you can invite the person to church with you for thanksgiving and your church will do the rest,..this one is for the shy ones, hahaha, but its a good thing as well. 

Now the fifth way is, by our appreciation to everyone that has been in our lives, throughout this year we’ve had people who through it all stood by us, even when we faced situations, they still stood strong for us. These are people who God sent and used to be our Comfort and help throughout the year. We have them in our Pastors, Cell Leaders, Coordinators in church, parents, siblings, extended relations, our friends, teachers, bosses, leaders and many others. A simple thank you call or text or messages through cards, even gifts will definitely be great coming from you. Do you know why you will do this, because you are like your heavenly father, you are different from the rest of the world, the bible calls us, peculiar people. So, even in this season of thanks giving, you will stand out from the rest and thank God like you have never done before.

All these five ways are a great expression of your thanks toward God. I’ll be glad to receive feed backs and comments from you. Keep Illuminating, Its still our season of THANKSGIVING

…and my sincere apologies for this post being too long ahhh my fingers ooh, anyway i thought it was important to share this one as it is. I’m sure we can handle that,..lol…I trust una,lol.

kip Illuminating.