Don’t Give Up Just Yet…….Be Comforted

Story Story...Once Upon a time

Hi beautiful people, how was your day and how are preparations going towards the valentine’s day celebration. If you didn’t see my last post, just scroll down to read that one before you read this one, Either ways, do enjoy your self, while reading, because by now you’re already used to me writing plenty. Thank you for the comments and likes, don’t for get to leave your comments below, those of you who keep reading and not commenting (yes I’ve caught you today, lol). I just got back from class now and even though I’m hungry I decided to do this post. Enjoy your read.

 So today something happened to me and I realized that someone might be in this position that I found myself.

I went for a class and the teacher decided that today, we the students would do a competition in order to be scored for the topic of the day. We all didn’t prepare so well, because some of us had to rehearse for our upcoming faculty day, while others were really busy with something else, so most of us were just wondering what she meant by that.

I personally didn’t prepare so my thoughts were for me to tell her to let me rework the class. That would involve paying for the class again. It’s not so expensive but the time involved was expensive, especially in this winter season.

Now here’s what happened, she said she was going to cal our names randomly from the register and we are 15 in class, so it could get to any of us in no time. The question was to name something individually that had to do with a specific organ in the body (trying not to go into detail). There were not too many that were stated in the textbooks, but as a student its part of your responsibility to go all out in our research as regards any topic and so, she expected us to have an answer immediately she asked.

The “competition” as she called it started and by the time it got to my turn, we all had exhausted all the answers we could pick from our notes. We were not allowed to repeat anything that someone had already mention, nothing related to it at all.

Now at this point, I already had something in mind but I wasn’t sure she would accept it, mind you I was answering to an experienced medical doctor, so she knew exactly what she wanted to hear. As she asked me, I didn’t hesitate at all, I just voiced out my thoughts and then, she confirmed my suspicion by saying she didn’t think that was absolutely correct.

I just sat there in thoughts for like one minute, thinking about what else could not have been mentioned that I could pick. My people, I was there and nothing was coming to my head. I mentioned other things, but again she rejected.

So not to “waste more time”, I said “Ma’am I don’t have any other thing to add, I don’t know the answer to your question”, so she said, “alright” and called out the next name.

By the time she got to the next name, the person too didn’t know what else to add, seeing that the answers in our text books had been exhausted. But here’s what the person said to her. “Madam, I don’t know what to say at the moment, but if you would give me some time, I will try to come up with something good, I’d love to think for some time” and she replied “OK, you take sometime to think, I’ll get back to you”. Then she moved on to the next person, and again the next person had the same situation as the previous person. He decided to think. (Notice the difference between what I said and what they said to the teacher)

Then suddenly, in my thoughts, something came up, I cross checked in my head and decided that this answer should be a good one for her. I raised my hands so she could give me a chance to speak, since it wasn’t my turn and she obliged me. I said my answer and yes, it was very correct, it was a good answer. Here’s where the story changed.

In my mind, I had given her an answer and so there was a point for me, I thought. Then the shocker came. She said, I had given up my chance for a score, by saying that I didn’t know any other thing to say, instead of asking for time to think. I felt bad, and she noticed, but still didn’t change her mind. Suddenly, those who asked for time to think, came up with their answers and lo and behold, they were all correct. Even though I got a good answer and told her,….it was somewhat useless to her because it wasn’t gonna affect my scores. I had already lost the competition in her mind. While the rest got their deserved marks,..I was probably the only one without a score. Then series of things came up in class and she concluded that I wasn’t listening as she asked us to at the beginning of the class, so on and so forth.

It got to a time she even said, “Ohh I don’t want you to think that I’m attacking you, I only didn’t expect you to give up on yourself, it’s disappointing. You should have been insistent on your ability and asked for more time”

Those words struck me, I left the class with it echoing in my head. I was almost in tears. But then, GOD spoke……and you guys know what happens when God speaks.

He said, “You where created unto good works, you can only succeed and be excellent. Don’t be discouraged,Cheer Up. All I want you to know is that I’m training you in righteousness, it’s a lesson that you have just learnt again through your teacher. Never give up, just like she stated, I believe in you and you will succeed. It doesn’t matter what comes your way, CHEER UP”

This words comforted me and I came out victorious, you know why? Because what the enemy planned for evil, the lord turned it around for my good. I have learnt again that, I’m able to do all things through Christ who energizes me, if only I don’t give up, I don’t get tired so quickly. I believe they would comfort you as

This also reflects to every area of our lives. The miracle that you require is so close, don’t give up, stay on the word, keep your focus on God’s word and what God has said about that situation. It can only get better for you. Just like me in class today, if I had waited just a bit longer, the answer would have sprung forth and would have been accepted. Just keep that faith burning for a little more time. That testimony is on the way. Be encouraged and comforted as God has comforted me today. It doesn’t matter if you even made the mistake just like I did today by giving up on myself, it will work out for your good. God is faithful to us his kids. Some of us could be going through this in our Jobs, homes, marriages, education, career, relationships e.t.c…where we have made mistakes, we are being discouraged because of one thing or another, no, you have not failed, it’s not over until you win. That’s what God has said about you. God is taking you somewhere so don’t be discouraged by the level you are in, just keep your focus on God’s words concerning you and you’ll surely arrive there, in time.

I know our future is bright, it is secure and God’s manifested presence will be evident in it in Jesus Name, Amen. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 says,

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort,  who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God”.

comfortBe comforted and be quick to pick out lessons that God opens your eyes to see in every situation or circumstance that you find yourself. Don’t be quick to crucify yourself or feel discouraged. God doesn’t see you or that situation that way. He believes in you to steer that ship to its destination, despite the storms that may be experienced. Against all odds you will triumph.

Let me end with this few words:

There’s no TESTIMONY without a TEST,testimony

There’s no TRIUMPH without TRIAL,

There’s no GLORY without STORY.

See you at the top my dear friends. I love you all and I’m glad I could share this with you guys. You all are wonderful.

Keep Illuminating.



Hey Guys…….guess what? ….yea yea you guessed right,…I’M BACK. How have y’all been? I know I know (face down) Some of you are angry at me…please forgive me. If you want me to explain I can actually mail you my explanation ooh. All the same, PLEASE FORGIVE ME……It was after I got series of messages both personal and public that I checked my blog calendar and realized that I hadn’t posted anything since one month plus…..I know right (now even some of you that didn’t notice are like haaaaa!!! Tenderoni, how could you and you say you love us, hmmmm) Please, don’t crucify me. I promise not to stay away for this long.

However,…I had a lot of entertainment and insight from most of my blogger friends…you guys are amazing, shout out to Dr N, Frances, Lizzie, Glowing Scene,…ahhh Femmetotale, Ujesta, Dare and yes, Crazy Nigerian, Livelytwist (the writer herself)…ooh how can I forget my mummy, Naija mum…una too much. Y’all kept my busy days very relaxing. Thank you so much, your gift is indeed evident and I’m blessed by you.   muah

Also, thank you to those of you who kept visiting to see if I have posted on the blog yet. You made me smile and cry at the same time(as I wasn’t able to satisfy your thirst). I love you guys.

Now today is a beautiful day and I have so much to say to you but considering how tired I am,…I will tell you a story.story

Story Story,….Story……….Once Upon a time,…..time…time.

Emily is the name of my new friend. She’s beautiful, the kind that you don’t need to sound modest about when you see. I had just met her a few months ago and so we decided to spend some time together since we both live in different cities. The holidays came close, so It was only normal and about time we met. It was whole week break, both our universities happened to have our holiday on the same days, so we planned her trip. My city had more to offer in terms of fun places and since I live alone, she had to come over…..Thank God she didn’t live too far, she got here on time and I was so excited to see her.

The first day we had a beautiful night, you know how we ladies can be,..gist upon gist,. girl talk, everything gistable was on the table of our gist plate. We had fun, got to know each other better and we literally slept off with our mouth open as we had talked and talked till our mouths got tired.

Before you start to imagine tins, I and Emily really gelled, and every day went beautiful as we visited different fun places. It was such a breath of fresh air to have her around, especially as she shared my passions.

Here’s where things got funny (now don’t think we fought ooh, all you people expecting the story not to end well, your plan will not work….lol)

I noticed that Emily had this very arguable low self-esteem, it wasn’t the kind that you would notice easily, you might not even call it low self-esteem, maybe I should say the wrong kind of humility.

Let me give you an example of how some of my conversations with her went.

Now here’s both of us dressing up for service and we get talking:

Me: Wow, gurl I love this your dress ooh,…it fits so perfectly on you. I would love mine in the color orange. I really love the way it looks on you. (mind you, I wasn’t flattering, I meant it)

Emily: Ohl really, I don’t see what you’re seeing ooh,..the gown is just there,…I even got it in one cheap shop like that. I’m surprised you like it on me ooh, you know you are the one with the sexy body now, abeggiii stop flattering me ooh.

Me: I’m serious dear, I love the way it looks on you and thanks for your compliment, I love your body shape as well, you’re beautiful and you know it…..go girl

Emily: Wow, sweetie, this your dress is awesome, I love it,’re so pretty. You’ll take me to where you shop ooh. This dress is lovely.

Me: Awwww thank you love,..I actually got this at a second-hand shop too, but it hadn’t been worn before. I know right, the dress fits me as I like it, that’s because I had to take it to the seamstress to do some fittings on it. Thanks.

Emily: Wow, that’s nice…..You really have beautiful things ooh…..I love them and your body just fits in them perfectly. Maybe you should take me to where you shop for real, at least let me get a few things before I head back.

So we go out to shop one day, and to cut the story short, Emily comes back empty-handed, no, not because she didn’t have the money to pay. Because, she didn’t find anything that fits her or that appeals to her. Are you shocked, no don’t be. We went through several shops, several pieces and she kept giving an excuse why that beautiful dress wouldn’t look beautiful on her. One of her many reasons was that it was gonna expose her ugly legs (Yes, she said “my Ugly legs”). But surprisingly, when it got to my turn to try on clothes, she advised me to pick them, saying they looked perfect on me. If I didn’t know better, I would have said she wanted me to spend money while she watched but I know better. She was so insecure about herself that everyone else apart from her was perfect. So much so, that she almost didn’t see anything good about herself physically. She complained about almost everything. Her weight, her skin, her buttocks,etc                                      .awe

So, there was this day when she offered me a compliment and here was my response.

Me: Emily, you offer me this beautiful compliments each time and I always love them, they make me smile. However, I don’t think that you mean them. Sometimes I wonder if it’s the same eyes with which you see others that you use in seeing yourself.

Emily: How do you mean dear?..she quietly asked me

Me: Have you ever wondered how come you seem to see everything beautiful about people, but each time others compliment you, you seem to always have something negative to counter it with? I don’t think that my things as you say are as beautiful as you say they are, because if you can’t see by yourself how beautiful you and your own things are, how can you see for someone else? Those are my concerns.

Emily: Ooh dear,…..they truly are beautiful as I have said, it’s just that I don’t always feel  as beautiful as the way people say I am. I know it’s a problem and I’ll definitely try to change. I’ve been trying to but I just don’t know how.

Me: I’m glad you now see it in this light. We’ll talk about how you can overcome this low self-esteem tonight, there are some practical steps that must be taken my dear, don’t worry we’ll do this together, ok. I love you dear, *hugs*

Emily: Thank you dear, thank you for letting me know this. I love you too sweetie *hugs*

So that’s in summary how my conversation with Emily ended on that day.

Some of you might be asking, why this story…..who cares to know what happened between you and your new friend Emily?…blah blah blah,

Well, this story just reminds me about how so many people go through this on a daily basis. We can be so careful about acknowledging several beautiful things about us, things that God has graced us with, not just physically. Some of us do it because of low self-esteem while some others do it in the name of being Humble. However, it’s not like we plan to be this way. We just find ourselves in that position where we don’t want to sound like we are proud or like we have it all.

My Brother, My Sister,…please cheer up, loosen up, you too deserve to be praised, you too can be proud of your God-given gifts and talents. Is there something you’ve accomplished and you are being praised for it, don’t just act as though it’s a sin to think highly of yourself. You deserve to be celebrated and loved, so let out those smiles, say the “thank you’s” it’s that simple, do not complicate things by trying to explain how “it’s not all that” as we see it.

Even in this season of Love, we should learn to accept appreciation with humility as well as give out appreciation to the people around us. Lets learn to celebrate our selves and pat ourselves at the back for even those seemingly little accomplishments or endeavors that we succeed at. You can take an example from the Lizard, like the story we heard as kids, he nods his head after a successful fall from the tree, since no one will applaud him,…lol

Even God expects us to acknowledge every good work that’s in us, He says, that way the communication of our faith will be effectual (Philemon 1:6)

Also God is OK that we can think highly of ourselves, just not too highly of ourselves (Romans 12:3)

awesomeSo take advantage of the love that you receive and celebrate others as you celebrate yourself. You are very valuable and you should be treated as such. Jesus paid for you with his blood, so square your shoulders, stand tall, walk straight, talk bold, for you are AWESOME.

If you’re an Emily out there, look out for my upcoming post on how to improve self esteem…’ll surely bless you.its ok

I love you guys and I missed y’all so much.

Have a beautiful day.

Kip Illuminating

Story Story...Once Upon a time